“There are so many ways of being despicable it quite makes one’s head spin. But the way to be really despicable is to be contemptuous of other people’s pain.” – James Baldwin
A Narcissistic parents controls children in these ways:
The Co dependent parent – ” I need you. I can’t live without you.” – This prevents the child from having autonomy of their own.
Guilt Driven Control – “I’ve given my life for you. I’ve sacrificed it all.” – This method of control creates a feeling of obligation in children that they ‘owe’ the Narcissistic parent and must behave in a certain way to make the parent happy.
Love Withdrawal Control – “You’re worthy of my love only because you behave in a way that I expect you to behave.” – The moment a child does not meet expectations a narcissistic parent withdraws their love.
Emotional Incest Control – “Your my one true love. The one most important to me.” – The opposite sex parent makes the child responsible for fulfilling their unmet emotional needs.